.....Late night Thursday and staying up till 4am on a weekend, when my old friend Chris came over for dinner. I was impressed with myself for having made a vegetarian roast and apple pies and apple/blackberry crumble that I had made using a combination of my garden apples and Al's. We had two puddings. Cheesecake as well : )
Chris brought me one of his new paintings. Yellow and white, called 'Friends at the Window'. Two figures in white against a rainy yellow background. I like it. It was his 50th, in July (Team Cancer). I had a wee painting for him. I like exchanging art. It feels good.
...repercussions, Monday.
Delayed reaction, approx two-4 days, with most things - including late night/early mornings = insufficient rest.
Admin day. Very little to do in the world of paper, with numbers and words. I figured that this chore bore is not in doing the paperwork itself, it's the navigation of both numbers and words on a single page. Hell - for a dyslexic (even a mildly dyslexic person)
Now that I have this figured out, I know that it is normal for me to procrastinate. Weirdly, once I get into it, onto it - I enjoy it.
I qualified in 1999 with a Secretarial diploma, IT, shorthand and audio and Spanish - for business and A Level Spanish.
It was a good year, my daughter was 'socialising and mingling' - at nursery school and it must have been good for her to be around other children from 13 months old. Many people around me told me that she was too young (? !) and I discovered that she was not the only young babe to be in nursery school at a year old.
I burnt out, a bit, quite a bit and this lead me to learn and understand bi-polar disorder and post-natal depression. I had a breakdown in the Spring of 2000.
My point is, I'm good at admin, I just find it a bit dull. Being a secretary was not a 'missed vocation'. Doing admin just helps move your life in the right direction, and that would be forwards.
I had met Chris (a resident in the block that my daughter and I lived in) in 2003, just after my recovery and relocation. I liked his retro leather jacket, purple flares and metal band t-shirt - on spec - his accent and lot of things about him. He always held the door for me, and said "After you, pet" (all gentlemanly Geordie style). If we were away, Chris would guinea-pig sit. We had a few guinea-pigs and we often took them to graze in the local park. He had moved from Haywards Heath, and before that South Shields. His accent was strong Geordie and sometimes I would simply not have a clue what he had said - in Geordie and ask, "Could you say that in English, this time, please?', which he found very funny - and on asking me,"Can I borrow your loo?" (a Geordie term, we in the South, tend to say 'use') to which I always reply, "Sure, as long as you bring it back"- bit long in the tooth now. I did not say it this weekend I think he might have said 'use your loo'. Southernised : )
Chris has recently joined the Friends Meeting House Quaker group in Brighton. He lives alone, as I do. His love life is always complicated. I understand the benefits of the community that it brings to people's lives.
This education, learning about mental health, helped me a lot and it the subject matter still interests me. I still pay attention to new information linked to these illnesses, or should I say 'malfunctions' ?
Having guests over, from time to time is nice - especially if I cook a nice meal and indulge in interesting conversation.
I have a new house rule. Yes, you are very welcome to my home, on one condition (or three
: )
No drama
No drunkenness
Good vibes only
Presents and offerings (optional, but welcome : )
Peace and Love only, or you can take your negative ass away : )
and kiss my a**
I do not fight
I do not enjoy confrontation and will avoid it at all costs
When I am out, if someone cuts me up on the road, or drives like a c***, I smile and wave - while singing to myself the expletives I would likely use if they could hear me. This is what I try to practice.
If someone wants to try to push my buttons? Go ahead, if it makes you feel better (being an arse) I really don't care. Mainly, I do not encounter much of this. G-d places a**** strategically throughout your life. How you deal with it? Is entirely up to you.
My daughter has been in touch and she is well. Full time working for another Green King establishment. The hours are long and she has yet to find something that she is interested in, or...I wondered if she might fall into hospitality management or something connected to the industry of hospitality. She is out-going, attractive, bright, bossy and personable. At this point the world is their lobster : ) oyster. How many folk change direction after graduation? Many.
I received a photo of a vegetarian curry that she has made in her new home. I intend to visit, just as soon as busy September is over.
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